Tag: Relationships

There was a time when I mistook attention for affection. If someone looked my way, showed the slightest interest, or gave me even a moment of their energy, I clung to the possibility of connection. I didn’t realise then that a glance (or a "like" or "match" in dating lingo") could mean many things—and often, it meant very little at all. Back then, my younger self didn’t know the difference between being seen and feeling seen. I hadn’t yet discovered that attraction is not the same as connection. And so, I attracted people who noticed me—but who had no real intention of truly knowing me. You can imagine the heartbreak that followed. Reading Keeping the Love You Find by Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt changed everything. It gave language to my longing to be deeply understood and connect. It helped me see how my attraction to those who simply acknowledged me echoed my earliest relational experiences. I wasn’t drawn to people because...