There was a time when I mistook attention for affection. If someone looked my way, showed the slightest interest, or gave me even a moment of their energy, I clung to the possibility of connection. I didn’t realise then that a glance (or a “like” or “match” in dating lingo”) could mean many things—and often, it meant very little at all.
Back then, my younger self didn’t know the difference between being seen and feeling seen. I hadn’t yet discovered that attraction is not the same as connection. And so, I attracted people who noticed me—but who had no real intention of truly knowing me. You can imagine the heartbreak that followed.
Reading Keeping the Love You Find by Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt changed everything. It gave language to my longing to be deeply understood and connect. It helped me see how my attraction to those who simply acknowledged me echoed my earliest relational experiences. I wasn’t drawn to people because I truly liked them—I was drawn to being liked.
Then, I heard Charlize Theron say something that struck a chord: as an upcoming actress new to Hollywood, she had spent so much time wondering if others liked her, she never stopped to ask if she liked them. That single insight shifted my world. I began to look inward, to become more discerning about the kind of energy I invited into my life. I started to explore what it meant to consciously choose—and be chosen in return.
What I uncovered was my blueprint for love—a set of unconscious relational patterns that had been quietly shaping my choices all along. Bringing this blueprint into the light was a gift. It gave me the power to pause, reflect, and choose differently.
So inspired was I by this transformation that I became a certified Imago therapist and workshop presenter. Today, I offer the Keeping the Love You Find workshop for singles—a two-day, immersive experience grounded in the very principles that changed my life.
A Workshop That Changes Everything
If you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of false starts, ghosting, or emotional exhaustion in dating, this workshop is for you. Keeping the Love You Find is based on the groundbreaking work of Hendrix and Hunt. It helps you uncover and rewrite the patterns that keep you from the connection you deserve.
This workshop is for you if you’re:
- Tired of attracting the wrong partners
- Feeling burnt out by dating
- Struggling to commit—or trust someone who does
- Always questioning if there might be “someone better”
- Wondering if love is truly meant for you
Here’s what you’ll gain:
- A deep understanding of your relational blueprint
- Tools to identify and break sabotaging habits
- Insight into your fears of intimacy and commitment
- Healing from past relational wounds
- A renewed ability to form healthy, lasting connections
You’ll also meet other like-minded singles on the same path toward growth and relational wholeness.
Upcoming Event: Finding a Love to Keep
Dates: 17 & 18 May 2025
Location: London
Investment: £500 (includes all materials)
Register: Email me directly and personally on imagocd@gmail.com – I would love to hear your story and answer any questions before you commit.
A final thought
This transformative weekend blends teachings, personal reflection, and interactive dialogue to help you shift from unconscious attraction to conscious connection. Whether you’re healing from the past or preparing for for a future love, Keeping the Love You Find offers a powerful, compassionate roadmap.
You were born to be fully, authentically you. Sometimes, that means unbecoming who you’ve become, to remember who you really are.
Your love story doesn’t need to stay on repeat. It can evolve. It can heal. It can transform.
Let’s begin again—with intention, insight, and the courage to be truly seen.